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First World Problems or The Path is Smooth

4 Jul

Our last post clocked in 24 days ago – we’re a little ashamed. We encourage our clients to stay current on their social media and blog posts, so it’s time to take our own advice, no doubt about it. This post is a little different, as we’re in the need of a little self help, so here we go…

There has been much discussion amongst our friends lately about jealousy, our place in the world, frustration at how our society is structured, the need for more honesty…we’ve been bitching and debating and it has made us realize that we all need to remember a) that we’re not alone, and b) we need to get over ourselves! Many of us are struggling – where do we fit in this world?, too many bills, piles of debt, personal relations, struggles at work, not enough time, no one loves us, societal pressures – our problems are everyone’s problems. It may not make our personal struggles any easier to overcome, but isn’t it comforting knowing that we’re not special? We pressure ourselves so much – to fit in, to say the right things, to meet others expectations, to have people like us – in the end, we need to be able to live with ourselves, so maybe it’s time to stop trying to please others and just make focus on our own happiness. We need to succeed and fail on our own terms.

Rose’s Mother Diane is a bit of a Pollyanna, she is full of positivity and hope, despite the fact that she is ill and has been on disability for over 20 years. She has shared two sayings that have stuck with us. The Cherokee parable feed the right wolf is always a good reminder, knowing that it is us who controls our thoughts, beliefs, actions, and we can choose the positive path over the negative one. The second is “the path is smooth,” which means we have a clear path ahead of us – and it is us who place obstacles in our own way. So much of our daily stress is the stress that we create and manifest, and it’s tiring. We have decided it’s much easier to be happy than it is to be upset or frustrated. (Not an earth shattering revelation, but one that we do need to remember.)

We have been fortunate enough to travel around the world and the happiest people we have met are not in North America, or even Europe. They are those in Asia or South America – who have nothing by our standards. They are the ones who have their homes, their families and work to support those homes and families. Not work like our work – work like working in the fields to grow their food, and walk to the pasture to check on their animals and building a new mud hut. It is a humbling experience to see what those lives are like, and a good reminder that all of our stress is a #firstworldproblem. Our path is smooth, we just need to stop sometimes and move that rock.